Is it easier dual navy couples to be stationed together?

My boyfriend is in the Navy going to become a SEAL and we plan to get married...i was wondering if it would be easier to be together if i was to join the navy...i've considered it for years...but i was just wondering...because i want to spend as much time as i can with him. So would be easier if i just stayed out of the navy...or join???Is it easier dual navy couples to be stationed together?
If you aren't married before you get to bootcamp or ';A'; school, it can be very hard to get stationed together. There are regulations that keep you in a general area- but you can be separated by hours and several hundred miles. And they can take up to a year to do this- not including bootcamp, schools and special training, which can take up to a year as well. So you could be looking at a 2 year separation from the start. Not to mention this doesn't include deployments, so you could be separated by deployment (for him), then he returns and you leave- you could spend a year or more separated depending on your duty rotations.





Also, if he gets through SEAL training, his duty staions will be more limited as ';special forces'; than yours would. So, he may get his orders, but orders to that base or area may be impossible for you if there are no orders available there. As a SEAL, he will more likely to deploy for ';training ops'; and he could be gone for weeks with no ability to contact you- if you are on deployment, that will be even harder for contact between you two.





I don't want to sound mean, but enlisting is a big deal- you should do it ONLY for you, not to be close to your boyfriend/husband. it is your name and your agreement to the military that YOU have to commit to. Doing it for someone else could cause resentment if you don't like the things that happen to you/him/or your relationship. Also, to help make your chances better of being stationed in the same area, you may have to pick and MOS (job) that you may not like, and that can cause resentment as well.





If you want to enlist and be together- you need to see a recruiter and be signed WITH a ship date BEFORE he leaves! Once he leaves, it will be much harder to do any of this. And being married will help your chances as well. Marrying after enlistment will delay the entire process even more as your marriage license will have to be routed, and your name change will have to be approved and your service record will have to be updated before anything else can be done.





You also need to remember that there are fraternization rules in the military- so to keep from geeting in trouble for that, you have to be able to prove their was a relationship before the military. Especially if he becomes an officer and you are enlisted. That is a HUGE no-no in the military, across all branches. I can't tell you what would be easier for you, as no one knows your relationship better than you. bUt this is the facts, and you have to go from there. But, between you and me, dual-enlisted marriage is hard- I've done it!! The hard way!!!!!Is it easier dual navy couples to be stationed together?
No it wouldn't be easier just because you are married doesn't mean you will get stationed together. You can easily get stationed in two different locations. Remember as well that the percent that pass the SEAL training is very small so while he wants to do it he might not complete it. If he does then when he gets orders usually they are accompanied meaning that you can be together.
as a SEAL..assuming he is NOT one of the 85% that wash out ..his duty station locations will be Coronado or Little Creek.. that's it. YOU being in a different rating could be ANYWHERE.. and while both Coronado and LC are in High Fleet concentration areas you could just as easily find yourself in Mayport as Norfolk or Pearl Harbor as San Diego. or overseas.