The short answer would be to expect the unexpected. You have to have a rock solid relationship that thrives on adversity and challenge and is able to adapt on the fly to the barrage of emotions that swinging will throw at it. It is definitely quite the emotional roller coaster ride!
I would suggest expecting your worst fears to rear their ugly heads first. Unless you're ready to deal with your ugliest personal demons (selfishness, fear of the other person your spouse is with being better in bed, fear that you'll be abandoned, fear that your spouse will not love you anymore, fear that your spouse will get too carried away and not care about how his/her actions may hurt you, etc), you're better off working yourself up to being ready for that first.
It's an unbelievable opportunity for personal growth, and I'm NOT the same woman I used to be. I'm much more. I attribute that in part to swinging. I think the biggest emotional surprises were that sex only has as much power over your relationship as you choose to give it, and that all the ';hurts'; I experienced were not actually real, but were built up in my own mind. My husband's intentions were always honourable, and it was my refusing to believe him that caused any problems. It's all about trust. What can married couples '; EXPECT '; when they try swinging with other married couples ?
We have been swingers for a few years. What it will do is expose the flaws in your marriage, whether it be jealousy, lack of communication, etc. IF these shortcomings aren't too severe, this serves as an opportunity for repair and strengthening of a marriage. If they are severe, it can seriously hurt your marriage, especially if you don't immediately drop swinging and address the issues.
Talk talk talk talk about what you both want, expect, and how you will communicate your interests or lack of with each other. Miscommunication is the biggest problem I know of in swinging.
In preparation before swinging ask yourself if you are totally and completely ready for another person to step in and physically pleasure your spouse like none other.
If you are ready for this then no worries. If not communication is key in setting guidelines for a positive experience.
You will feel many different emotions and that is totally normal, what will make or break you is how you act on those emotions.
Ginni
Everything alphabetsoup2 and the others have said.
More STD's than the US bioweapons division
More trouble than Dubya's defense policy
More cheap than a chicken farm
More ho'd out than Debbie in Debbie Does Dallas
More troll than Billy Goat's Gruff
That answer it for ya!
You can EXPECT to get DIVORCED. Swinging is a huge relationship risk. If you are willing to risk throwing it all away, go for it.
i think it will show you a mirror..........if your relation ship is bad and insecure then you will break up and if you two are really for each other then you will get close and love each other more
Disease, hedonism, cheapness, shallowness, empty love, and sordid story's to tell the grandchildren about!
jealousy, big time, swinging or 3 somes or anything involving sex with others then you two is A BAD IDEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I suggest you make sure your a very confident and secure couple. Because if your not, then trouble could be a brewing on the horizon.
the unexpected...
STD's
A bad idea for both,can Create havoc.
That's not what we're suppose to do. Conflict and separation should be the outcome.
Hey thumbs up , Great answers, I agree with all of them and I can't find anything else to add to this. Good Job!
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